- You are a small minority and your position is extreme. What does this have to do with the price of rice in China? Is the fact that a smaller number of women have felt pain, marginalization, and sexism and has questions about policy and practice in the Church negate their experiences? It's validity? Do only the experiences of the majority matter? And citing the Pew Study numbers are problematic, as the question it references is actually quite a loaded question in Mormon culture. Again with marginalizing them into a fringe radical group.
- Your position detracts from the helpful discussions Church leaders are having with women in and outside of Church Leadership. While I am not a member of OW, I do participate in WAVE (Women Advocating for Voice and Equality) and I'm A Mormon Feminist communities. For years and years (chronicled back to its establishment almost 10 years ago) WAVE has sought a way to start a discussion between women who have issues with practice and policy in the Church and leadership. They have been thwarted right and left, and told the only way to address the Church is through the proper structure: bishop, stake president. Not one member of any of these groups has been allowed to speak to a leader of our Church with any influence or authority to affect any changes (above a SP). In fact often many of these women have been released from callings and been given probationary status and punishments for meeting with leadership and discussing their concerns and views. This has created a culture of fear of addressing these issues. So, whatever conversations are actually happening with women in the Church, they are not with women who actually experience pain and marginalization and hold these actual concerns enough to belong to these communities. It makes no sense to me to say, "We hear that some of you have issues, so we are only going to consult with women who don't have any issues in attempting to resolve them." The reason Ordain Women is engaging the Church in a public manner is because they have asked and asked and asked for a meeting with leaders to discuss their concerns and all attempts at addressing these issues privately have been ignored. There is a pattern established in scripture that members are able to petition their leadership to prayerfully ask questions of God on their behalf (Zelophehad's Daughters, basically all of D&C, etc.) and they are attempting to find a way to follow this pattern. If the church has a problem with the publicity of it all -- it could easily be solved by making it a private matter of conversation. Would there be harm in creating a Women's Group that discusses matters that has GAs on it, AND that has women that represent the full spectrum of Mormon Womanhood (Ordain Women, Non-OW Mormon Feminists, Non-Feminists who would like to see change, and Women who support the Status Quo). The reason the activism continues is because they have not been engaged, and the church has a history of directly engaging with marginalized members in the past (Genesis group), they just to refuse to do so in the instance of Mormon Feminism.
- Ordination of Women will never happen. Says who? Even Elder Anderson, when addressing the question in Conference in October, said that we have no idea why things the way they are. There certainly are enough indications in scripture and apocrypha (female priests and prophetesses), church history (Emma's ordaining, turning of keys to RS), GA quotes (McConkie on women among noble and great ones who created the world), and the temple (all genders are to prepare to officiate in the priesthood etc...are you not listening in the temple?) that make the matter quite complex. Now I don't know when these revelations will be fulfilled or received - in this life or the next . . . but living in a certainty that we already have the answer actually precludes further revelation from being received. It IS a possibility. A defining feature of our Church from all others is that we do not live by creeds.
- Attend the Women's Meeting. I support a general women's meeting. I don't think we should get rid of gendered spaces in the Church -- but if we have a women's meeting the other meeting should be called a general men's meeting. Actual priesthood or even membership in the church has no bearing on if you are allowed to attend and enter -- just maleness, so call it what it is.**Ordain Women has stated if it were the General Men's Meeting there would be no reason for them to try to attend. The only reason they are there is because it's advertised as a place for prospective priesthood holders to receive counsel from their prophets.**
- Take your protest to the free speech zone. Ah, this broke my heart. As Uchtdorf indicated, we are to respect all honest seekers of truth. Whatever your opinion of these women, I invite you to see them as your sisters and not as enemies. Sisters in need of comfort and a listening ear and love. Sisters who have questions. It is not a crime to have questions. Again, reread Uchtdorf - they are welcome with us. I do not see anything in OW plans that is not peaceful. It certainly is uncomfortable for the Church and public relations to have to turndown a crying woman asking for entrance into an overflow location with standby tickets even though there was room for them. What would really be the harm of publicly stating, "Sisters, we disagree with you insistently. But of course if there are extra seats in the back of the Tabernacle overflow after all men are seated we will let you enter." Their mere presence would not "destroy" the meeting if people are in tune with the Spirit, any more than a man or husband being granted entrance into the Women's Meeting to sit on the back row would destroy the meeting. I agree with the quotes in the SL Tribune article:
I want to challenge every person who disagrees with OW not to think of them as enemies, but as sisters. Sisters that you have been commanded to love and comfort. The relegating of women with questions who are seeking ways to engage the leadership of the church to the status of anti-mormon, garment burning protesters . . . it hurts me deeply. Because while I am not a member of OW -- I am like them. I have questions. I hope for change and engagement and to be listened to by leadership. I am like them. I have seen them called apostate and I personally have been called apostate as well. While I cannot speak for all of OW, at first when I was antagonistic towards them I despised their existence. And then I sought to understand them. I engaged them online and listened to their experiences via podcasts and posts. I heard their hearts and understood, yet felt the Spirit confirming a different answer for me. So who are these so called apostates that everyone enjoys hating on?The church "has regretfully upped the ante," says Steve Evans, a Salt Lake City attorney and Mormon blogger. "The repeat of last year’s activity was not destined to gain as much press as before, but now things have changed. If it not only refuses entry to these women but also forces them off of Temple Square, the church may inadvertently send the message that it feels threatened by the Ordain Women movement." Mormons need to see that their church "is open to serious, faithful conversation about the role of women in God’s organization," says Evans, a founder of the LDS blog, By Common Consent. "This response probably sends the wrong message."
It’s also a "PR disaster for the church," says Kristine Haglund, editor of Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought. "Goliath is never going to get better press than David — the optics are terrible." And unnecessary, she says, given that Ordain Women had announced that April’s conference would be the second and final time the group planned to seek priesthood tickets.
Mormon feminists are not exclusively female; 19 percent of those surveyed were male. Seventy-nine percent were aged 40 or younger. Ninety-five percent lived in the US, and 91 percent identified as Caucasian. Eighty-one percent attended church three times per month, and 70 percent currently hold a calling. Eighty-seven percent reported having been baptized at the standard age of eight years. Seventy-seven percent reported levels of belief that were consistent with those of mainstream Mormonism. Ninety-one percent of married Mormon feminists were married in an LDS temple, a sign of faithfulness and orthopraxy. The majority of respondents were parents (62 percent). Fifty-nine percent believe that women will be ordained in this life or the next, a further 26 percent believe that women already hold the priesthood, and 16 percent believe that women will never hold the priesthood. (I Am A Mormon Feminist", 2013 Interdisciplinary Journal of Research on Religion)
From Joseph Smith:
“I never thought it was right to call up a man and try him because he erred in doctrine, it looks too much like Methodism and not like Latter day Saintism. Methodists have creeds which a man must believe or be kicked out of their church. I want the liberty of believing as I please, it feels so good not to be tramelled.”  WoJS, 183-84.This is not an instance to celebrate the separating of wheat from the chaff, as I've seen in family members and on online forums. This may not be a test for Ordain Women. This may be a test for us as how we respond to them. Does not the Lord leave the 99 to seek after the 1? Yes, the Lord would comfort them and weep with them. Of this I am sure.
I am sure because Jesus wept with Mary. In John 11 Lazarus had died and Jesus was returning to help. Mary went out to meet Jesus: